I just read an “article” entitled “8 Things to do if Your Boyfriend Hates Your Friends.” I say article but it was really 8 photos of random women trying to implore random men into agreeing to something, with 2 sentences of “advice” below each photo.
Shitty advice, I might add. Gems like “Don’t Ignore It” and “Don’t Force It” in which they tell you to “keep the two sides separate” so no one is miserable. My favorite helpful hint is “Don’t tell your friends, especially if your circle is all girls! Drama will ensue!”
Let me tell you something right now. Those friends? They are the ones who picked you up off the floor after the last asshole dumped you. They are the ones who brought you buckets of Ben and Jerry’s and watched endless repeats of 13 Going On 30 with you, and don’t think for a moment that is how they wanted to spend their Saturday night. They are also the ones who will come back around and do it again when this asshole is caught in bed with his co-worker.
Your friends don’t have the lust factor going on, the “OMG he’s so awesome” drivel that clouds their judgment. If they don’t like your new boyfriend, then what I suggest is that you listen up. They have a reason, maybe a lot of reasons, and you should take those to heart. These are people who love you for you, not what you can do in bed, and they only want the best for you. Maybe wonder-boy isn’t it.
And what if your friends are okay with the guy, but the boyfriend says he doesn’t like them? Run. Run fast. Run far. It’s a sign. One you probably want to desperately ignore, given that you haven’t been laid in 6 months AND he likes to cook you breakfast, but a sign nonetheless. What does the sign say? It screams, “I’m a control freak!!”
#7 however, is really the worst part of the whole thing. “Don’t change your life and compromise everything just because he doesn’t like them. If you keep choosing him over them, you’ll start to resent him very soon and it might lead to a breakup.”
Seriously? Don’t choose him because you might start to resent him and that might lead to a break-up?
If breaking up with him is your biggest worry, you don’t even deserve friends. And eventually they will make that clear to you by not being your friends anymore.
So, let me give you my piece of advice on what to do if your friends don’t like your man. It is short and sweet and to the point. I can dispense with your problem in 1 quick tidbit, never mind 8.
If you trust your friends then trust your friends. Dump him. Anyone who wants to control you, who you hang around with and what you do with your time is Bad News. Dump him. Now.
See? That wasn’t so hard now, was it?