Do you have a know-it-all in your life? Maybe it’s your mother, your son or (like me) it’s your husband. Perhaps you are the know-it-all. If so, and you want your relationships to have longevity, I suggest you forward this on to your loved ones.

More than just a Know-it-all

Living with someone who has know-it-all tendencies is annoying, to say the least.  The unsolicited should’ves and would’ves are aggravating, frustrating, and not even remotely helpful. But, as we all know, a person comes as a package and we have to appreciate the good and make the most of the bad. Luckily my know-it-all hubby is also gorgeous and kind. He is (and will be the first to say it) a fantastic cook, too. But most importantly, he has a great sense of humour, which goes a long way in our house.

The Mini Trophy

This is how I cope with his pushy words of wisdom: whenever my hubby reckons he’s an expert (and he does reckon because he’s British), I present him with, what I fondly and sarcastically refer to as, a mini trophy. The mini trophy is an imaginary award approximately 6 inches high. There’s a surplus of them in my pocket at all times and a few in my purse. They really do come in handy.

The Ceremony

The mini trophy presentation is quick and straight to the point. I just reach into my pocket (it’s so convenient), pull one out and perform a brief ceremony. Using my finest primary school teacher expression, (it’s all in the eyes) and in the voice of a therapist, I say something like:

Thank you so much for those life-altering words of wisdom.  I appreciate you taking the time to offer such insight and I feel compelled to honour you with… this well deserved, invisible mini trophy.

Most of the time, he is speechless and I relish in the silence.


He really is building up a nice collection though (always the overachiever). I’m just glad they’re small and invisible or we’d be living in the clutter of his know-how.

If you present a mini trophy, I’d love to hear about it.


Shannon Day is co-author of Martinis & Motherhood: Tales of Wonder, Woe & WTF?! (a funny and heartwarming book & martini guide for moms). She is a freelance writer and blogger whose words and wit can be found at several online sites, including her own: Martinis & Motherhood. Get in touch with Shannon via Facebook or Twitter.


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  3. This is good advice, but it’s only what I’ve been telling people for years! (Just kidding. I am going to start using this idea immediately. I even know whose names to engrave on the trophies in advance.)

    • Hi Bronwyn, thanks for taking the time to comment. An engraved trophy is even more of an honour to receive! You must have a very special know-it-all in your

  4. Oh. I love this! I will try it next on my brother-in-law, who is the biggest know-it-all on the planet. He needs some of these middle-finger-sized trophies of which you speak. Bet if I check my pockets, I’ll find a fresh supply from you. Thanks in advance for speedy delivery! 🙂

  5. Mini trophy. Every time I imagine doing this, I die. I need to start reining in my immediate reactions and start presenting mini trophies. Maybe even upgrade to a maxi trophy every once in a while. You know, for the REALLY big wins. Awesome post. xxx+o

    • Jess, I recommend practising in front of the mirror. Get the delivery down and then, when the time is right, just reach into your pocket (or oversized bag if it’s a maxi) and go for it!

  6. I have an actual trophy about 3″ high, that I found at the dollar store and I pull it out for my son and co-workers. I also pull it out for myself, on occasion, but for a completely different reason.

    • That is fantastic, Marie. We all deserve a bit of “recognition” sometimes. I have been distributing quite a few minis lately so I’m thankful that they’re imaginary!

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