I hesitated to write a piece titled “F*cking Persist,” but f*ckng persist with it is what I did.


Because the message is too damn necessary to avoid a curse word (or two) for the sake of being appropriate.

Persisting — it is something I (and many) have been doing our whole lives, and it is the reason for our success.

I am not saying that I am this famous, money-making entrepreneur. I am not defining success by the size of the paycheck I bring in each month. I am also not relating my “success” to the square footage of my house or the brand of my car (’cause my Chrysler ain’t nothing to write home about).

I am defining success as feeling financially stable, moderately happy, occasionally “balanced” and pretty proud of the work and children I am putting out into this world.

And who or what can I thank for my success? Myself and my ability to f*cking persist despite any and all obstacles I encounter.

Persistence is something I was taught from a very young age and even more than being discussed with me, it was modeled for me.

With a father who was a bond trader and mother who was a teacher, I was raised by two people working their absolute tails off to provide for my siblings and me. Not only did they ensure we had a constant roof (and a nice one, at that) over our heads and food (plenty of it because we are Italian, c’mon) on our table, but they also never failed to present us with opportunities.

What else did they do? They equipped us with the emotional, social and mental intelligence required to become a well-rounded, well-versed, kind, witty, humble, and “successful” human beings.

Because of how I was raised and by whom, I live by the motto “never give up” and this mentality to f*cking persist despite your actual or perceived shortcomings, rejections, fears, anxiety, judgment, status has helped me reach the state of being pretty darn content.

“Pretty darn content?” you question me.

 Who wants to settle for that? 

Don’t we all want to be deliriously happy and insanely successful?

Maybe many do and yes, of course, I would like to make more money, have a bigger house, and take more vacations, but all of those things don’t mean I will feel as balanced and as gratified as I do now.

In my humble opinion, which many of you will tout as juvenile, naive, or even idiotic, I assert that the best trait any of us can have, maintain, and hold on to, is persistence. It is also one of the most crucial and vital qualities you should aim to instill in your child.

When you make a choice to persist, and persist, and to keep persisting, you cannot fail. Yes, you may persist, and persist, and persist and bug the sh*t out of whoever is in the vicinity of your persistence. Yes, people may still reject you, they may blacklist you, they may scream from the rooftop for you to stop persisting.


Should you stop?

At that point yes, but only in your persistence towards them. Keep persisting, but aim your persistence towards a different person or a new goal.

I cannot voice strongly enough just how much persistence can and will pay off, but if you never try this method of f*cking persisting till you are blue in the face, you are risking a life that can reach its full potential.

You know what else I love about persistence? It’s so incredibly motivating. It’s invigorating, it’s a bit scary, but in a good way and it’s challenging. Persistence forces you out of your comfort zone while forcing others in your midst out of theirs, as well.

Persistence is attractive; unless you are a stalker and then it’s gross and criminal. But, the fact is, that there is nothing more interesting and enticing — to a potential suitor, a stranger, a potential employer or your family and friends — than someone who is impassioned and doesn’t give up on what they know they need and want to be happy.

My advice to you and me and to future generations who can tolerate an appropriately-placed curse word: Let’s all keep f*cking persisting.

That’s how we will change ourselves for the better.

That’s how we will inspire others to change for the better.

That’s how we will make the world better — by f*cking persisting one person at a time.


Nicole can be a smart-ass, but honestly, she's more just smart; smart enough to have gotten into law school and also smart enough to have dropped out. She's also smart enough to have weaseled her way into BLUNTmoms. Nicole became a BLUNTmom by simply bombarding the editorial team with her work until they couldn’t take it anymore and they haphazardly added her to the team with the hopes it would get her to chill the f*ck out a bit. Nicole can inadvertently or purposefully be a bit vanilla sometimes in her attempt to keep up her appearance as a respectful, well-mannered, well-spoken and proper mother of three, so when she’s raw and crass for us, her pieces are that much more enjoyable to read. Nicole blogs over at jthreeNMe and is regularly featured by Scary Mommy, FamilyShare, Sammiches & Psych Meds, Everyday Family, Motherly & many more. Follow her as @jthreenme across Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter!

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