When is it ok to cheat?
I challenge you to not just gasp and hiss ‘never’ – this is an honest and sincere question. It isn’t a question looking for permission to cheat, but it is designed to measure one’s threshold.
Imagine if your husband, a wonderful man and good partner, just one day, no longer wanted you.
No more pokes while you’re sleeping.
No more kisses.
No more long looks.
No more flirting.
No more hand holding.
No more baby making.
No more showers together.
No more suggestive glances.
No more touching.
Nothing.
Imagine, if day after day, week after week, month after month, and yes – year after year, your fabulous partner rejects you.
You`ve had the chat. You`ve called the therapist. You`ve done what you can do.
And you’re met with silence.
The truth that he is withholding, in the hopes to spare your feelings, is that he is no longer attracted to you. Can you hate him for this? No, I don’t think so . But, if everything else is great – you are wonderful friends, good parents and responsible citizens – is the lack of sex a valid reason to break up an otherwise happy and functional family?
In the role as mother and partner, you still have a self to fulfill – and that includes a sensual self. There is no shame in that, however, marriage dictates that the only person you are allowed to act out this sensual self with is your husband. What happens when he won`t?
Do you simply wait, do you give up, or do you look elsewhere?
Inquiring minds want to know.