I shouldn’t have married my husband.

Collective gasp.

Truly.  If I go back 10 years, I don’t think he was the man for me to marry.

Double gasp.

Yes, we are still married.  No, he is not going to freak out when he reads this. He knows that I had a little bit more than cold feet when it came to our wedding.

It’s true.  I didn’t want to walk down the aisle.  The night before my wedding I pretty much asked my parents if I could stay with them forever.  And I meant it.

It’s not that I didn’t love him.

I did love him.  I just didn’t feel ready.  We had only been dating two years and I just wasn’t sure that we were the right people for each other.  I was mostly worried that he had made a mistake in asking me. That he did it by accident. And that out of fear I said, yes.

I would like to go back in time and talk to myself on my wedding day. But what would I tell that 26 year old girl?

I would tell her that she really has no clue what love is, but in ten years she will have the love that is something you read in a fairy tale.

I would tell her that your journey together will be hilarious.  That even through the hard times, you will always come back to each other and laugh about it.

I would tell her that marriages are pretty awesome and that having your best friend sleep in the same bed as you is pretty great.

I would tell her that some things about him will drive you batty, but he puts up with way worse from you.

I would tell her that he will be the most amazing father. And that he will help create two of the most beautiful children on the planet.

I would tell her that he will love you with all his heart and treat you like an equal.  That he will never talk down to you. Never expect things of you. And that he will become your best friend.

I would tell her that you will become more and more attracted to him.  That he just gets more handsome everyday and some days you just cannot wait to be held in his arms.

I would tell her to quit crying and run down that aisle because she was about to make the best decision of her life.

 

 

author:

Kyla Cornish
Blog: http://www.mommysweird.com
Twitter: @Mommyisweird

Kyla Cornish
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Kyla Cornish is an on hiatus radio Dj adjusting to being a Momma of two children. Main problems? Lack of sex, sleep, sanity and an addiction to saucy chicken wings. According to one, probably drunk commentor on her blog, ” She is Canada’s Version of The Bloggess”. You can read her writing in a series of e-books titled “Life Well Blogged” and she has been recognized by many top blogger lists. She was even named Platinum Blog in her community of Cranbrook, British Columbia. Her big claim to fame is being kicked out of a blogging contest for cheating. She also won a baking competition when she was 11 at a 4-H Rally. So as you can see, she's kind of a big deal.

20 Comments

  1. Erin

    Just read this again and cried again. Lovely;)

  2. Tanya H.

    My husband just cheated on me, so it was nice to be reminded that not all men are jerks.

  3. Tanya H. I think folks probably don’t know what to say to such a pain laiden one line comment. I wasn’t going to post, but didn’t want you to think that nobody has heard you. I am so sorry girl, so very sorry. Not all men are jerks, and the ones that cheat on their wives should have their own dicks fed to them. We stand in unity with you at this time.

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  5. Heather

    What an awesome post! I love it (and couldn’t have said it better myself). Thanks, H.

  6. Cordelia Newlin de Rojas

    Like Just Me, I want you to know you are heard. My heart goes out to you. I hope you have a good friends to help you through this time. And maybe this will make me unpopular but, if you feel so inclined, you may want to forgive him, depending on the circumstances. We are all human and many of us make some unthinkably stupid mistakes without the intention of cruelty.

    Of course there is also the bobbitt solution…
    *virtual hugs*

  7. Cordelia Newlin de Rojas

    Kyla,
    What a lovely post. Too often you hear of people wanting to run down the aisle and ten years on wanting to run away. Glad it’s the other way around!

  8. 23andscared

    I’m 23 I just married my husband He such a good guy and he deserves a girl who loves him like he loves me I love him but I’m not in love with him I think I’m in love with somebody else but I pray one day I can love him the way u love ur husband… I want it to work I really do

  9. Magnolia Ripkin

    Honey, you are super young but clearly smart enough to realize that he deserves a good wife. Free advice from Blunt Moms who are generally older than you and have been around the block. First, do what you can to make it work with the guy you married. However I am going to be really clear on this part: having a baby doesn’t fix broken relationships: ever.
    If you do all the things to make the love catch fire, and it doesn’t, then part with dignity and kindness before you fool around with another man.
    We feel for you sweetie, truly.
    Hugs from Moms.

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