We live in a world where everything we share is online. From what we are having for dinner, to where we spent our weekend, or funny shit we want to spread around to make others pee a little while reading. We share! Since when did it become wrong to talk about how you feel?
I’m a bit of recluse, so being online is my way to connect to others. On my blog I share about parenting, raising a stubborn teenager whose suddenly got a girlfriend and talking about leaving the house as soon as humanly possible. I share about being a caregiver to my husband with a brain injury and the fact it drives me insane that he forgets everything! I share about being a special needs mom to a young child with bipolar disorder, sensory disorder and mild cerebral palsy, while battling my own insanity on a daily basis.
Writing down my feelings, whether people read them or not, I find is therapeutic for me. It makes me feel better. If I connect with someone else going through something similar, that’s great. It starts a conversation, makes what you are feeling easier to cope with, and bridges the gap we all feel when isolation and lack of human kindness desolate our environment.
So when did it become so wrong to share?
Lately all I’ve been reading on Facebook, Twitter and other social networks are the words of others. People apparently need to stop whining, stop complaining, stop being depressed, just stop! I don’t know about you but I’m sick of seeing that!
Everyone has bad days, you ragging on that person or thinking they are whining or looking for attention isn’t helping them. If you don’t like what you are reading – change the fucking channel! Hit the back button. Go play a game. Go read Huffington or hit Pinterest and learn how to decorate your house. But shut up!
People who share how they feel are doing just that, sharing their own damn feelings. If someone is depressed and talking about, they don’t need to be told to smile. They need support or sometimes they don’t need anything, other than just someone to listen. They definitely don’t need you ragging on them and putting them down for whining.
We all have good days and bad days. We all have things in our life to perk us up or bring us down. We all have things that piss us off, and someone is always going through something worse than you are, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a right to share what you need to.
You have a right not to read. You have a right to share your opinion, too. Just remember though when doing so, being hateful, mean, calling a person down or using your judgements to spread crap isn’t what that person needs. So show some bloody compassion for once or move the fuck along!
I’m not saying people don’t have a right to respond to someone or share their thoughts and feelings, too. I’m just saying we live in a world that is fucked up enough without having people come in and bash others, put them down or point out their faults. I know my own faults, I don’t need your backing me up on this.
So the next time you see something you don’t like on the social network you are, think twice before hitting reply. Think about what you are doing. If you don’t have anything nice to say then keep your damn mouth shut! People have a hard enough time sharing without you getting in their face and making them worse than they already do about things.
Be kind to each other. Remember that, because next time it could be you sharing how you feel about something upsetting you and the last thing you would want is me coming in and shitting on you with my own opinions on how screwed up you might be.
Nobody needs that.