The Blunt Moms were recently debating this article about the true value of motherhood. 

The gloves came off so we are posting this smack down, using our words because we are Moms. 

We asked two of our BLUNTmoms to take on one big question:

Is motherhood your greatest accomplishment?”

We invite you to read over their opinions, then get out your sparring gloves and duke it out in the comments.

Ready, steady, GO!

Mom Point (by Lynn Morrison):

I am SO much more than my uterus

Wham, bam, thank you ma’am was all it took for me to get pregnant. It turns out that I am one of those incredibly lucky women who happens to be married to an incredibly lucky man, and all we have to do is look at one another without protection and I’m dry-heaving over the toilet. The act of going from not-mother to mother took no effort.

Raising children, on the other hand, is hard work. But so are a lot of great things in my life. Like my degrees. My progress up the career ladder. My adventures.

I want my kids to understand that they are also important to me. I want them to know I am proud of them for their goals and accomplishments, not necessarily (only) for the future generations they may bring into this world.

I am SO much more than my uterus. I believe in my inherent ability to make a difference in this world through my own actions and hard work. And I believe the same to be true for my children, and their children and so on. So no, becoming a mother is not my greatest accomplishment. Being someone who my children can aspire to become is.

Mom Counterpoint (by Inga Batur):

Making babies has been my greatest achievement by far

I had to read this article a few times just to see what bothered me the most. I think it’s offensive and trying it’s best to be judgmental. First of all I don’t think being a mother is a job, because I don’t just do nine to five and then I am off. But for argument’s sake let’s keep it in terms of work. And so, yes it is tough and having kids is by far my greatest achievement. Nothing will ever come close to topping it.

I am a working Mom, so I know that no project is as big as raising kids to become loving and content adults.

In all honesty it’s actually the only profession nature intended us to have; everything else we invented. I am not trying to diminish anyone else here nor am I thinking that Mothers are the only ones who have it tough. If we as parents are trying to do the job right I believe none of us have it easy. But propagating the species is apparently not as simple as it used to be for generations, or perhaps we are making that much of a fuss, just because we can. Maybe we should follow the examples of our forefathers; shut up and just do it. But what fun would that be?

What do you think?

{This ‘Best of Blunt Moms’ post was first published in July 2013}

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2 Comments

  1. I would have to say, I feel that my three daughters ARE my greatest accomplishments. Now, on the topic of “Is motherhood the hardest job in the world?” I’d say it really depends. Everyone’s situation is different. Some have more challenging circumstances than others. Sometimes it is hard but I’d be more inclined to refer to it as important, more than hard. And as for “…in the world.” It is the most important job in my world. After all, I’m raising humans and I want them to be good and kind and capable.

  2. I agree with Shannon’s comment that it is different for everyone. I think it would be fantastic if we could all respect each other’s views on the subject of motherhood. I am a working mom who wanted nothing more than to have babies. I love my sons more than anything but being a Mom doesn’t define who I am. I don’t think it is any woman’s intent to offend another woman by saying, “motherhood is not my greatest accomplishment,” or by saying, “being a mother is the most important thing I do.” Everyone feels differently about how motherhood fits into their sense of self. I have my own opinions about whether I would call motherhood a job, or if it is the most important thing a woman can do, but in the end, as long as we as mothers do our best to raise kind, caring children, either while staying home full time, working full time, working part time, etc., then isn’t that good enough? Women doing their best to raise their children well, provide their children with love and affection and values and self assurance – that sounds pretty fab to me, no matter what you call it, how you define it, or how many hours a day you spend doing it. I worry more about how it has become such common place, so accepted, for women to jump on other women for their choices, their words, their opinions, and their way of parenting. As far as I know, nobody has the lock on perfect parenting, and we are all just doing our best. For me, I could not imagine being a happy and fulfilled human if my only job was raising my kids. That is NOT a judgement about women who are full time moms. That is simply MY story, my journey, and working and being among adults, learning, reading, researching, writing, teaching…all of these things define me, in addition to being a mom to two amazing sons. I hope that sends a positive message to my boys that they are not the ONLY thing that is important to me, and that it is absolutely a good thing to have your own passions and goals in life. I surely want them to have goals and passions as they get older, so why not let them see that these things are important to me? I may not be curing cancer at work, but I think my education, my degrees, my work, are all an important part of who I am. Kids or no kids, we are still individuals and in my opinion it is great for our kids to see that! And that can still come through if you are a stay at home mom – no reason full time moms cannot have passions, goals, hobbies, etc. I would die for my kids and I wouldn’t die for my job, so I guess that implies that my kids are my most important job, but I also wouldn’t really call motherhood a job. It’s more complicated, special, and unique than a job.

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